10 Songs To Avoid At A Gay Wedding

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In this guide, we will share our top 10 songs to AVOID at a gay wedding. Wedding playlists play a big part in the general ambience of the reception. So make sure you avoid any awkward songs that are specifically catered to the heterosexual community. The same goes for sad breakup songs or misleading song titles!

  1. Don’t Marry Her by The Beautiful South
    A definite no-no for pretty obvious reasons.
  1. Every Breath You Take by The Police
    At first glance this song seems quite romantic, but another listen to lyrics and it’s quite a sad story about a lost lover and jealousy.
  1. I Love You by Billie Eilish
    The title is romantic but the story isn’t. It’s a deeply sad song about a broken relationship.
  1. Single Ladies by Beyonce
    Typically used to bring all the single females onto the dance floor during a garter toss, but will miss the mark at a gay wedding.
  1. I’m Coming Out by Diana Ross
    Around the world this song is perfect for gay pride celebrations and dance floors, but for a wedding it could be perceived as a little overstated.
  1. Marry You by Bruno Mars
    A catchy singalong but it’s about getting drunk and making impulsive decisions. Not quite appropriate for a well-planned wedding, but more appropriate for those eloping. Mind you, your guests probably won’t notice or mind if it snuck on the list.
  1. Dancing With A Stranger by Sam Smith & Normani
    All about the loneliness that comes with a breakup, definitely not a wedding song.
  1. You’re The One That I Want by Olivia Newton-John & John Travolta
    Grease is full of campy songs that at first seem like great additions to the dance playlist. But when actually listening carefully, they include misogynistic lyrics such as “I better shape up, ‘cause you need a man”.
  1. Better Man by Pearl Jam
    A song about settling for less and lying about being in love with their partner. Not the sort of message you want to put out on your wedding day!
  1. Mother-In-Law by Ernie K.Doe
    May seem like a fun little joke at first but your guests may not have the same sense of humor…


So there you have it, our top 10 list of songs you should AVOID playing at any gay, lesbian, or LGBTQ+ wedding. If you’re looking for more suggestions we have guides on “Top 50 Songs To Add To Your Gay Wedding Playlist” and “Top 25 songs for an LGBTQ+ first dance”.

Chante Mclaughlin
Author: Chante Mclaughlin

Creative Executive for GayandLesbianWeddings.com